What exactly is bragging ? It is not just a way of boasting yourself to others, it is also a way of being loud and clear. for eg : When i say my blog has reached 10k viewers in just 3 months, it is not bragging. Just Sharing . But when I shout, ” Come on ! Only 10k viewers in 3 months. You gotta be kidding me. ” This is unadulterated bragging. Don’t get fooled by the dissatisfied grumpy tone. Not just me, everyone brag in their own way. But you may not even notice it unless you rewind the conversation again and again.
Lets look at types of bragging we come across in our daily life
Direct Brag :
It is very simple. When you talk about yourself all day in a way that makes others around you feel ant sized big, then it is called direct bragging. If you brag about yourself just to make you feel mightier, that will only make you look pathetic and sad inside. For Eg : Bill Gates Quotes about his friend “ I failed in some subjects in exam, but my friend passed in all. Now he is an engineer in Microsoft and I am the owner of Microsoft. ”. Bill Gates have every right to brag about himself but did anyone think of how his “All Pass” friend would feel.
Backdoor Bragging :
This term went viral after famous NBC hit show “30 Rock” used it in one of their episode. Backdoor Bragging is an act of cleverly inserting something in the conversation in a way of being both humble and vocally boasting about yourself. for eg : ” None of my office colleagues believe im in my mid 20′s, because they say i look like a college kid.” If you notice i subtly inserted the fact im as young as college fella, but the main part of my speech is about what my office colleagues think about me. Follow the image below for more understanding.
If you are very much determined to not brag atall, then you have got your disadvantages too.
Disadvantages of “not” Bragging :
By not bragging nobody will know your success and you will remain invisible in this dog eat dog world. for eg in appraisal meeting and in interviews you gotta definitely brag. Especially when your interviewer asks for your achievements You cant say “Hmmmm it no big deal !! ” or “My achievements speaks for itself !! .” Lets keep one thing clear, nobody’s achievements gonna speak for itself. It is just a myth. Do you really think Steve Jobs and Bill Gates got popular though “word of mouth” ?!? Everyone did their share of bragging and marketing to reach their heights.
Promoting yourself verbally about your skills is never wrong if you wanted others to know what you have to offer. But never promote yourself just to feel superiors than the others. In our current competitive world bragging is necessity to promote one’s self. Downplaying about your talents and success will only let others to take credit for your hard works.
So promote yourself gracefully and stylishly without sounding like a big mouthed jackass.